# Dear Abby: Am I wrong to deny my sister-in-law the money my husband left for me?

- URL: https://talkfuse.com/story/dear-abby-am-i-wrong-to-deny-my-sister-in-law-the-money-my-husband-left-for-me/
- Published: 2026-11-14T08:00:00+00:00
- Updated: 2026-11-14T08:18:35+00:00
- Original publisher: New York Post (publisher lean: Right)
- Original article: https://nypost.com/2026/11/14/lifestyle/dear-abby-am-i-wrong-to-deny-my-sister-in-law-the-money-my-husband-left-for-me/
- Topics: World

## Key points

- A widow is advised to refuse her sister-in-law’s loan request.
- A credit counsellor is suggested as a route out of debt.
- Other advice covers caregiving and an unwanted ring.

## Summary

Dear Abby advises a recent widow not to lend her sister-in-law money from the $1 million in life insurance proceeds left by her late husband. The advice column says the sister-in-law’s longstanding debt and spending problems make repayment unlikely, and suggests she seek credit counselling instead.

The column also addresses two other readers. A 70-year-old man is urged to find affordable care for his ex-wife, whom he has housed for ten years, because caregiving is harming his health. A woman troubled by an expensive ring from a former lover is advised to sell it, donate the proceeds to charity and avoid renewing contact.

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