# Dear Abby: I’m a 59-year-old virgin — and my wife of 20 years doesn’t want to have sex with me

- URL: https://talkfuse.com/story/dear-abby-im-a-59-year-old-virgin-and-my-wife-of-20-years-doesnt-want-to-have-sex-with-me/
- Published: 2026-11-11T08:00:00+00:00
- Updated: 2026-11-11T08:36:54+00:00
- Original publisher: New York Post (publisher lean: Right)
- Original article: https://nypost.com/2026/11/11/lifestyle/dear-abby-im-a-59-year-old-virgin-and-my-wife-doesnt-want-to-have-sex-with-me/
- Topics: World

## Key points

- A husband considers divorce after nearly 20 years without sex.
- Abby urges him to discuss his wife’s wishes directly.
- Other letters cover gun safety, a gifted house and Veterans Day.

## Summary

A 59-year-old man says he has been a virgin throughout nearly 20 years of marriage because his wife has shown no interest in sex. He loves her but is considering divorce, and Dear Abby advises him to ask directly whether she might be willing to have sex, while recognising that ending a relationship over unmet needs can be acceptable.

The column also answers three other letters: it recommends checking whether a Phoenix father carrying a loaded gun in his granddaughter’s stroller has a permit and gun-safety training; says a man who received his sister’s house as a gift does not owe her a share if he sells it; and offers thanks to veterans and their families on Veterans Day.

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