My new partner wants me to sell my mortgage-free home. After what happened in my divorce, I’m terrified he’s asking too much: VANESSA STOYKOV
In a personal finance column, Vanessa Stoykov addresses a reader whose new partner wants her to sell the mortgage-free home she owns outright, having previously lost significant financial ground during her divorce. The letter-writer fears that agreeing could leave her financially exposed again, and the column examines how couples in second relationships can balance merging their lives with protecting hard-won financial security.
Stoykov's advice centres on caution: she suggests the reader is not obliged to sell or share ownership of an asset she secured through past hardship, and recommends steps such as seeking independent legal and financial advice, considering arrangements like prenuptial or cohabitation agreements, and having open conversations with her partner about motives and expectations before making any changes to the property's ownership. The piece frames the situation as a common dilemma for people rebuilding financial stability after divorce, warning against repeating past mistakes for the sake of a new relationship.
- Reader's new partner wants her to sell her mortgage-free house.
- She fears repeating financial losses suffered in her divorce.
- Columnist advises caution, independent advice and legal protections before agreeing.