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What makes a ‘good’ orgasm?
The article argues that there is no universal definition of a “good” orgasm: pleasure is personal, and an orgasm can occur in situations shaped by pressure, unwanted sex or gender expectations. It says orgasm should not be treated as proof of desirability or sexual success, and that judging it by a single standard can obscure the circumstances around it.
The piece cites research on coerced orgasms, which may involve force, guilt, threats or pressure to climax, and a 2023 Spanish study that found orgasms during partnered sex were rated as more intense, moving and intimate. It also points to the 2002 Orgasm Rating Scale, which asks people to rate descriptive feelings, while noting there is no evidence that abstinence improves orgasm quality. Regular sexual activity may enhance orgasm intensity for women; arousal, focus, health, sleep and relationships can also shape the experience.
In short
- A “good” orgasm has no universal definition.
- Pressure and gender expectations can shape sexual experiences.
- Pleasure depends on personal feelings and circumstances.
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The case for
There is no single standard for a good orgasm, and treating orgasm as a measure of sexual success can place unfair pressure on people or obscure whether an experience was wanted. A person’s own sense of pleasure, safety and meaning is a more respectful guide, especially since orgasms can occur amid coercion or gendered expectations.
The case against
Shared measures can still help researchers and individuals describe orgasm, compare experiences and identify factors linked to pleasure, such as arousal, health and relationship context. Some may reasonably value partnered orgasms for the intimacy they can bring, while recognising that study findings describe average reports rather than a universal ideal.