More British singles are turning to AI for dating advice and messages
AI is becoming a common dating aid, with people using chatbots for advice, message writing and profile checks as more romantic encounters begin online. A survey of 3,000 British singles found 39% had used AI in their dating lives, rising to 66% among Gen Z and 53% among millennials.
People described using chatbots to practise conversations, plan dates and assess matches, sometimes with unexpected results: one man says AI urged him to meet a partner whose photos he had nearly dismissed. But disclosure can carry a cost: about a third of UK singles said they would end a date if they learned AI had written their match’s messages. Some users also worry that relying on chatbots may displace friends’ advice or weaken their own judgement.
In short
- 39% of British singles surveyed have used AI in dating.
- Chatbots help with messages, advice and evaluating matches.
- About a third would end a date over AI-written messages.
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The case for
AI can help people who find dating stressful by offering a low-pressure way to practise conversations, draft messages or think through a profile. It may broaden someone’s options and prompt them to reconsider snap judgements, while leaving the final choices to the person using it.
The case against
Dating depends partly on trust and on getting to know someone’s own voice, so undisclosed AI-written messages may create a misleading impression. Heavy reliance on chatbots could also crowd out advice from friends and weaken people’s confidence in their own judgement.
Explained simply
Online dating has made apps and websites a common way for people to meet, with profiles and messages often shaping first impressions before a date. Some singles now use AI chatbots—computer tools that generate replies to questions—to practise conversations, get dating advice or help write messages.
People may see AI-written messages as useful support, while others want to know whether a match is expressing their own thoughts. The issue also raises questions about how much people should rely on chatbots for personal decisions, and whether that could affect their judgement or conversations with friends.
AI use varies between age groups, so its role in dating may differ across generations. How people respond to its use could influence expectations about honesty and authenticity when meeting someone online.
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Originally published by The Guardian as “Is AI your new wingman? How chatbots are transforming dating”.