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This AI Assistant Wants to Make Up for Your Boyfriend’s Incompetence
Orchid, a new AI assistant, has drawn criticism for an advert portraying it as a solution to a boyfriend’s “weaponised incompetence”. In the advert, the AI remembers an anniversary, books dinner and buys flowers while the boyfriend takes credit, prompting concerns that technology could mask rather than resolve neglect and resentment in relationships.
A couples therapist quoted by WIRED said outsourcing communication to AI could worsen problems by encouraging indirect interaction and concealing a lack of genuine care. Orchid is primarily marketed as a cross-app life-automation tool, though its distinctive value beyond messaging remains unclear; a survey of more than 13,000 people found 59% felt AI dating advice made decisions more confusing and 47% delayed relationship decisions after receiving it.
In short
- Orchid’s advert sparked backlash for enabling relationship disengagement.
- Therapists warn AI cannot replace care or direct communication.
- Survey respondents said AI advice often complicated romantic decisions.
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The case for
Automating relationship maintenance tasks—remembering dates, booking reservations, purchasing gifts—is no different in principle from using a calendar app or scheduling service. If both partners understand and agree to such automation, it frees them from administrative burden to focus on genuine emotional connection. For people with executive function challenges, such tools address a practical difficulty without necessarily indicating insufficient care or commitment.
The case against
The product explicitly positions itself as compensation for weaponised incompetence, where one partner deliberately fails to contribute. This is a relationship problem requiring genuine change, not technological accommodation. The advertisement depicts deception—the boyfriend taking credit for the AI's work—which technology actively enables. Mental health professionals warn that outsourcing relationship maintenance prevents the difficult conversations necessary for real resolution.
Explained simply
Orchid is an AI assistant designed to handle tasks across apps, such as arranging plans and remembering important dates. Its advert shows it booking an anniversary dinner and buying flowers, while the boyfriend takes credit for the effort.
The advert has prompted debate about “weaponised incompetence”, a term for repeatedly avoiding tasks in a way that leaves someone else to do them. A couples therapist has warned that using AI to manage communication could hide a lack of care or make it harder for partners to address problems directly. The discussion also raises broader questions about how much people should rely on AI for relationship advice and decisions.